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Putting 36 Questions To The Test

PUBLISHED ON February 25, 2015 | STAFF

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Psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love in his laboratory over 20 years ago. They walked into the lab, sat across from each other, and answered a series of questions. The pair fell in love, and married soon after the experiment. I adore hearing about real life love stories, so I was intrigued when I heard about this experiment, and skeptical of course. Love Actualized took Dr. Aron’s theory, and turned it into a game available online or in your app store. It is designed to make people to fall in love.

After reading the reviews, and peoples' enthusiasm or dissatisfaction of the game, I decided to finally give the 36 questions a try on Love Actualized. So I grabbed another single person, and played the game. It took about 90 minutes as the site describes, and started off with the question: image Love Actualized.com

And as the game progresses, the questions gradually escalate in intensity. Moving up to more intimate questions:
image Love Actualized.com image Love Actualized.com I was playing the game with someone I know personal details about already. So, looking back, if I were answering these questions to a stranger I had just met, I would have taken a different approach to my answers. My answers would be what I thought the other person wanted to hear, as opposed to really thinking about my responses. But the fact that I had known my partner for some time now, I was able to be less modest with my answers.

I can see the appeal of the game, it allows people to get to know one another in a condensed period of time. Unfortunately, the more intimate questions can pose a problem to those who might not want to delve so deeply into their past with a stranger. But those are the parameters of the game, so if you want to play, you’re expected to open up. And that's all this is; a novelty game. About 45 minutes into it, my partner and I started playing the fortune cookie game where you end every question with ‘In Bed’.
image Love Actualized.com image Love Actualized.com It made for a more entertaining answers. So after its all said and done, I don’t feel like I had fallen in love with my partner after answering 36 questions. After you have answered all 36 questions, the final task is to have 4 minutes of uninterrupted eye contact. After the giggling and joking subsided, it felt nice to have my partner’s undivided attention and the center of their focus for the moment.

Ultimately, I do suggest 4 minutes of intimate eye contact with someone you are interested in, it feels intimate and personal. Other than that, just have fun with it. This would be a fun game to play on a date or with your long-term spouse, but I wouldn’t put too much stock in the belief that this is your ticket to finding true love.

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